In the end there are a million reasons not to live your dream, but all you really need are a small handful of reasons to do it. It all comes down to priorities.
If you are happy with your life at the moment, then there’s nothing you need to change. If, however, there is something you’re not happy with, it’s up to you to change it.
You have a choice. You can continue doing what you’ve been doing and you’ll get the same things you’ve been getting. If you want something different, you need to do something different. You know the saying: Insanity is doing the same thing over and over but expecting a different outcome. It’s true.
Set your priorities in life and then take steps to get there. It won’t be easy. It won’t come without work. Your dream won’t fall in your lap. YOU make that dream happen.
When we decided to ride our bikes from one end of the world to the other, we worked toward it with an undying sense of commitment and passion. Every action and thought was focused on making that dream come true. We woke up in the morning and thought about what steps we would take that day and in the evening we looked back on the progress we made. Baby steps to be sure, but they were steps in the right direction.
As I look back on that time period now, I realize there were three key attitudes and beliefs that were in place in order for us to be successful. (more…)
Business travelers, also known as “road warriors,” are some of the most experienced trip hackers around. Although here at Vagabonding we espouse slower wandering, these hard-core types have streamlined the process to a science. Their advice appeared in this New York Times article: How the tough get going: Silicon Valley travel tips. Prominently featured in the article is Tim Ferriss, known as the author of “The 4-Hour Workweek” and the “The 4-Hour Body.”
Naturally, there are many websites and apps that get mentioned. It’s interesting to see these guys apply a hacker ethic of “lighter, faster, more efficient” to their journeys.
My favorite tip was how to get a new charger and adapter fast if you lose yours. Ask your hotel to see their “lost and found” box. If you’re staying at a place that gets a lot of businesspeople, a lot of those things get accidentally left behind.
The CLEARcard was new to me. This enables cardholders to pass through airport security faster. While it’s a useful tool, a quick check of their website reveals that the card can only be used in four airports. If the card were more widely accepted, it would be more handy.
I did research, and found Global Entry. This is a U.S. Customs and Border Protection (CBP) program that can help members speed through security. Global Entry has been deployed in many major American airports, making it far more convenient than CLEARcard.
Some of the advice was risky though, like packing a starter pistol and declaring the firearm to TSA, as a way of making sure airport staff don’t lose your bag. With security being a big concern these days, this is not something I would recommend to anyone.
How do you pack light for your trips? Any tips for speeding up the check-in and boarding process? Please share your thoughts in the comments.
Most dreams die because the dreamers can’t take the requisite and always terrifying step into the unknown. The best laid plans and sincerest intentions are no protection against the stomach-lurching sensation when you let go of the lifeline.
Cila Warnke is currently writing a book – THE BOOK, as she refers to it. Here’s her description: The Book tells the stories of people who refuse to go gently into the fiction of “normal” life. They have confronted all the usual excuses for saying “no” (children, illness, age, lack of opportunity) and with cheerful, bloody-minded determination said “yes” to their dreams. These quiet heroes know the secret of success is not money, power, or privilege, but passion, desire, and a willingness to take risks. They are, to borrow from Henry David Thoreau, living deliberately.
I am fortunate to be one of the cast, one of the people profiled in The Book. Cila has been posting snippets of her writing on her blog for a while and I love reading about the wonderful people she’s spoken with. But yesterday, when I read her newest installment about my story, this part hit me: “Most dreams die because the dreamers can’t take the requisite and always terrifying step into the unknown. The best laid plans and sincerest intentions are no protection against the stomach-lurching sensation when you let go of the lifeline.”
And that made me think. Do more dreams die due to fear of the unknown, or due to lack of money? I hear from many people who say one or the other, and I honestly don’t know the answer. I’d like to say that lack of money may delay a dream, but if you are committed to making the dream happen that hurdle can be overcome. Taking that terrifying step into the unknown, however, is more difficult in my mind. For those of us lucky enough to live in developed countries, it seems to me that we can make it happen if we work hard enough. I know that, for many people in less fortunate situations around the world, there is no way no matter how hard they work.
And so I ask you: Do more dreams die because of lack of money or because of the fear of the unknown? What do you think?
Nancy Sathre-Vogel is Mom to an adventurous family who will try just about anything; many times, they actually achieve what they set out to do. Their most recent success was biking from Alaska to Argentina, but there have been others too. And some failures in there as well. You can follow their adventures at www.familyonbikes.org/blog
There’s a lot of talk in cyberspace about living your dream. Live life on your own terms, grab life by the horns and take it for a ride.
But what happens when you discover that the life you thought you wanted isn’t meeting your needs like you thought it would? Then what? Hang on anyway? Or give yourself permission to move on?
That’s precisely where we found ourselves as we hiked the Colorado Trail through the Rockies this summer. As we planned our 500-mile backpack trip we figured we would love being out in the mountains with our backpacks full of tents, sleeping bags, and food. It would be just us and Mother Nature out there in the wild blue yonder.
Yet when we got out there it wasn’t quite as we had envisioned. We knew the journey would be difficult, but didn’t expect the level of traffic on the trail. Mountain bikes whizzed past and we shared the trail with others out for a day hike while we lugged heavy backpacks. Somehow, it wasn’t quite what we had in mind.
And so… what? Do we hang on to some idealized version of our dream and keep going? Or do we accept the reality of what it is and call it off?
In the end, we opted to bail. We realized that long-distance biking is what we enjoy, not so much long-distance hiking. That’s OK. Different strokes for different folks.
Did we fail to live our dream? Not at all. We failed to hike the entire 500-mile Colorado Trail, but we lived our dream. We planned, we packed up, we hiked 200 miles, we learned we weren’t enjoying it, we changed our plan.
Now we need to come up with a new dream. I wonder what that will be?
Have you ever had a dream that ended up not being all you expected? What did you do? Bail or stick with it?
Nancy Sathre-Vogel is Mom to an adventurous family who will try just about anything. Many times, they actually achieve what they set out to do. Their most recent success was biking from Alaska to Argentina, but there have been others too. And some failures in there as well. You can follow their adventures at www.familyonbikes.org/blog
On the 7th of June, 37 year old Andy Campbell and his team set out from The Royal Geographic Society in London. Over the next two years he’s making his way around the world without a distinctively planned route. Eight years ago, Andy fell while rock climbing and became paralyzed from the waist down. As an able-bodied person, suddenly loosing the use of your legs can come as quite a shock. Mobility takes on a whole new angle of thinking. But it hasn’t dampened his adventurous spirit.
A few years ago I vividly remember standing in the doctor’s office blinking at X-rays of my spine hoping magically they’d look “normal” the next time-no such luck. My own gypsy spirit drifted beyond the walls as she said the words, “scoliosis” and “phase two, spinal degeneration”. Putting on the recommended back brace my view of the world changed. For the next year and a half it became part of my daily clothing. I began to take notice of little things like the weight of doors as my hand opened them. Seven months after I was told not to lift over 15lbs for a long while; our very own vagabonding inspiration, Rolf, traveled around the world on his “No baggage” journey.
“Disability does not mean inability” as one Michigan based Service Dog training facility promotes. And in that light, Andy of “Pushing the Limits” is making his way around the globe and would appreciate your ideas on where to visit! Check out his blog, drop an email and give him suggestions on where to go next!
I’ve applied to join the expedition when it reaches North America…
Traveling isn’t limited to putting one foot in front of the other—especially after the invention of the wheel–it’s all about attitude.
I remember reading a blog post before I left for my trip recommending that first-time travelers take a 5- to 7-week test trip to determine if long-term travel was right for them.
I disregarded this advice, as I didn’t really question whether I’d like traveling – I’d dreamed of it my whole life, and the pull to do it was strong enough that I was willing to quit a job I loved for it.
Three months later, here I am recommending a test trip – but for different reasons.
It’s not so much about figuring out if it’s right for you, but figuring out how it’s right for you. There are many styles of vagabonding – you could get a RTW ticket, you could work and live in one place abroad for a longer period, you could simply wander. If you haven’t traveled for more than a few weeks (which is likely the case for many career breakers from the U.S. like me) there’s no way of knowing your own travel style and what will work best for you.
I knew I couldn’t know the answers to these things before leaving, so I knew I had to just go and would figure it out from there. I didn’t specifically view every little thing as a test, but I found myself constantly learning what I liked and what type of travel could work for me. Now, I’m home on a pit stop (slightly unexpectedly but in a good way), planning the next phase of my journey, using all that I’ve learned to inform my decisions.
I don’t think a test trip necessarily means you need to leave, come home and then leave again; you can learn and adjust along the way without coming home, as long as you keep your trip flexible. That means holding off on buying the 1-year RTW ticket or taking the job teaching English abroad, if possible, until you know that style of travel is right for you.
Below are some of the things I’ve gained insight on in my first three months of travel, and while I still have a lot to learn, I know that I couldn’t have had answers to any of these things without first simply going and testing it out.
Fast vs. slow – I met a traveler whose style was go to as fast as possible, seeing all the main sites and then quickly moving to the next place, with plans to return in the future for longer periods in the places he really liked. While this format works for him, I learned that I would rather spend time in a place, understanding it as much as possible beyond the key sites. Other travelers fall somewhere in the middle. But either way, it’s hard to know without doing it, and this is a big dictator of how to set your itinerary so it’s important to know before setting out.
Tourism vs. immersion – After spending six weeks in a small town in Guatemala that sees few tourists, going to a big city full of “sites to see” was a bit of a culture shock that quickly taught me that I preferred the former. Of course, a big part of travel is seeing the sites – the natural wonders and historical buildings that only exist in that place – and I absolutely want to see them, but I have learned that I also enjoy immersing myself in smaller towns and cultural experiences for longer periods whenever possible. Again, knowing this can dictate where to go and how much time to estimate for each location for future trips.
Work and travel vs. work to travel – This remains one of the biggest questions, but after meeting so many different travelers and expats (including staying a few days in a suburb of Santiago, Chile, in an expat community) I now have perspective on the various options. It always sounds so dreamy to think about teaching English abroad or being a “digital nomad,” but seeing it in action can help you understand if it’s really for you, or if you prefer to have a “home” life and job that allows flexibility for travel. If you’ve quit your job to embrace the vagabonding lifestyle, knowing this before jumping in is essential.
Live abroad vs. travel abroad – Similar to above, traveling for a few months can give you insight as to whether you’d like to live in one place for a long period, or if you prefer to keep moving. Although I enjoy spending time in places, I also always get an itch for change and to see new things after a while – something I wouldn’t have known without traveling for a bit. Similarly, traveling for an extended period can help you know how long you like to be on the road for – some people can go for years, while others prefer a few months at a time.
Taking on a traveling lifestyle a big life decision, and just like we often test other life decisions – we get internships before jobs, rent before buying, date before getting engaged – it makes sense to learn how you like to travel before committing to a format. That doesn’t mean to go into your first trip timidly and strictly, assessing everything, it means quite the opposite – just let go and keep an open mind, and you’ll figure out the rest later.
Travelers, what do you think about staying flexible on the first trip?
When it comes to the vagabonding life, you’re quite literally going on the path not taken by most people. As we get older, sometimes the itch to answer the question “what if?” becomes more urgent.
Although not strictly related to travel, this GQ magazine article got me thinking: Eric Puchner finds the cooler version of himself.
On the surface, it seems like an impossible mission. Puchner surveyed his friends with one question: “Do you know someone who could have been me, but cooler?”
An excerpt from the piece explains his motivation:
Lately, though, perhaps because at age 41 I’d begun feeling less like the captain of my life and more like its deckhand, I’d started wondering if there was someone out there who embodies not your worst self, but your freest one—a person who encapsulates everything you’ve ever dreamed of becoming. Let’s call him your Cooler Self. All those dreams that got lost along the way, the ones that were casualties of chance or duty or cowardice: There’s a “you” out there—a mountain climber or war photographer or race-car driver—who brought them to fruition.
The ironic thing is that a “happy ending” would have been sad. He mentions having a bit of dread over the outcome of his search. What if he found someone who was living an awesome life that he could have had? If only he’d taken more risks, not given up sooner, the doubts would pile up on each other.
Getting back to vagabonding, it’s about making that choice to live the life you want much sooner. This can avoid the fountain of regret that can erupt later on in a mid-life crisis.
Upon reading that article, I couldn’t help but think of the reverse question: what would you have been like if you hadn’t traveled? The longer you live abroad, the more acutely you realize what you’ve given up. Have you reflected on things like this? Please share your thoughts in the comments.
Travel is taking an active stance. Society funnels people from school to career to family. However, when you travel, you’re making a conscious decision to stop following the script that you’re given. Instead, you start to write your own script for life.
On the personal finance blog “I Will Teach You To Be Rich” (sounds scammy, I know) there was a great post on this topic: The invisible scripts that guide our lives. After reading that, I couldn’t help but think about the “script” that society says about going abroad:
Got any more you can add to that list? What’s the script you wrote for yourself? Please share your thoughts in the comments.
P.S. On a complete tangent, there was a terrific comment on there by woman who arranged a low-cost, high-fun wedding.
I was a guest on The Breaking Free Show with Marilyn Shannon tonight. We were talking about freedom and breaking free from the ideas and mindsets that keep us captive.
It was an interesting question. If you are living your dream, then what are dreams?
I think the idea behind dreams is simply making conscious decisions and living intentionally. It’s waking up every morning and making a mindful decision about what to do with the next 24 hours.
And I think it’s possible to live that way now. Not just at some point off in the future.
I spent a total of four years cycling 27,000 miles with my family; three of them pedaling from Alaska to Argentina. We made it through by making conscious decisions each and every day. When times got tough, I knew turning around and going back home was an option, but I decided I wasn’t ready to give up yet. Maybe I was close, but I wasn’t quite at the quitting point yet.
Now that we’re living in Idaho, we’re living exactly the same. Each and every morning we wake up and decide what we’ll do with that day. If, at some point, we wake up and feel that our needs will be better met somewhere else, then we’ll move on.
Unfortunately, American culture and society tells us that we need to toe the line and live a certain way. We are expected to want the white picket fence and two cars in the driveway. Having the security of a well-paying job should bring us enormous amounts of satisfaction.
And if it’s doesn’t, then there must be something wrong with us. I beg to differ.
We can define our own American Dream. We can choose what kind of life we want to live. We can break free from the trappings of modern society that tell us we should want something we don’t.
We can live intentionally and purposely. We can make those choices. We can live the dream.
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You want to live your dream. It’s there inside, bursting to be set free, but you’re afraid. Fear of the unknown, or of the reactions of others, or of future career implications… There are many fears that hold us back and prevent us from living the life of our dreams.
Every single one of us who has taken off to travel the world has faced those fears, and we’ve managed to overcome them. You can too.
More often than not, it’s the very first step that’s the scariest. It’s making the decision to do it that’s overwhelming and seemingly insurmountable. Once that’s done, the rest is easy.
When my husband first brought up the idea of riding bicycles from Alaska to Argentina with our children, I thought he was nuts. I was convinced he had lost it; gone over the deep end into the vast oblivion of insanity. Ride bikes to the ends of the world? That’s crazy talk.
Yet when I actually stopped to think about it, I had to admit to myself I would love to do it – if I wasn’t so scared. It was fear that was telling me he was crazy. Fear that was holding me back.
What was a scared of? When I was totally honest with myself, I admitted I was afraid of failure. I didn’t want to face the agony of defeat or the humiliation of having to say I had failed. It was, in my own perverse way of thinking, better to not start at all rather than to risk failure.
And then one day I sat down and had a serious talk with myself. “Self,” I said, “if you head out and take that first pedal stroke you might fail. You probably have a 50/50 chance of failing, actually. But a 50% chance of failing means an equal chance of success.”
If I never set out in the first place, I had a 100% chance of failing.
When I looked at it that way, it made no sense to try. It was crazy to stay home in my safe, comfortable environment that wasn’t my dream. I might fail, but I would at least fail trying.
The rest, as they say, is history. My family flew to Alaska and started pedaling south. We pedaled 17,300 miles through fifteen countries in the next three years. We cycled over mountain passes higher than the highest peaks in Colorado and battled headwinds for 1500 miles along the Peruvian coast. We sweated in the intense Central American heat and shivered through winter storms in Wyoming. But we kept putting one foot in front of the other until we reached our goal.
What fears are you facing? What fears are holding you back from living your dream? What would you do if you were not afraid? Do it. Now.