Comments on: Handling the transition: Numb and lost http://www.vagablogging.net/handling-the-transition-numb-and-lost.html Tue, 16 Mar 2010 10:04:03 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Nam http://www.vagablogging.net/handling-the-transition-numb-and-lost.html/comment-page-1#comment-6011 Nam Fri, 05 Dec 2008 09:57:06 +0000 http://www.vagablogging.net/?p=2790#comment-6011 Hey you! Don't worry its natural. Like the others have already said, do the things you feel doing, and you'll slowly find yourself slipping into the "now." After 4 and a half years in the US, I went back and lived at home at my parents house in Oman. By then I didn't have any friends left there. I was seriously depressed. Then after 1 and a half year I went back to Oman again, this time for work, again I had to start from scratch, but I ended up snapping out of it quickly and having a good time. You have friends there and tons of stuff to do, Dubai is so much more exciting than Muscat. You'll be fine! But for now, do only what you feel like doing...you'll be your social self in no time :) Hey you! Don’t worry its natural. Like the others have already said, do the things you feel doing, and you’ll slowly find yourself slipping into the “now.” After 4 and a half years in the US, I went back and lived at home at my parents house in Oman. By then I didn’t have any friends left there. I was seriously depressed. Then after 1 and a half year I went back to Oman again, this time for work, again I had to start from scratch, but I ended up snapping out of it quickly and having a good time. You have friends there and tons of stuff to do, Dubai is so much more exciting than Muscat. You’ll be fine! But for now, do only what you feel like doing…you’ll be your social self in no time :)

]]> By: conchi http://www.vagablogging.net/handling-the-transition-numb-and-lost.html/comment-page-1#comment-5978 conchi Wed, 03 Dec 2008 22:49:18 +0000 http://www.vagablogging.net/?p=2790#comment-5978 Bonita, te escribo en español para expresarme mejor. Los últimos días, semanas aquí han sido vertiginosas para ti, igual que tu viaje de vuelta...es normal que estés eimpactada con la vuelta a Dubai, entre otras cosas porque ha sido todo muy rápido. Por mi experiencia después de Chile te digo que viene bien un tiempo para ti, para readaptarte, haciendo cosas que te gustan, estar contigo. Que no te apetezca hablarlo me parece muy natural. Verás como cuando lo tengas asentado en ti, podrás expresarlo si te apetece. Cuídate mucho y ten ojo con no zambullirte mucho en el trabajo. Muchos besos y gracias por compartir estas cosas. Bonita, te escribo en español para expresarme mejor. Los últimos días, semanas aquí han sido vertiginosas para ti, igual que tu viaje de vuelta…es normal que estés eimpactada con la vuelta a Dubai, entre otras cosas porque ha sido todo muy rápido.
Por mi experiencia después de Chile te digo que viene bien un tiempo para ti, para readaptarte, haciendo cosas que te gustan, estar contigo.
Que no te apetezca hablarlo me parece muy natural. Verás como cuando lo tengas asentado en ti, podrás expresarlo si te apetece.
Cuídate mucho y ten ojo con no zambullirte mucho en el trabajo.
Muchos besos y gracias por compartir estas cosas.

]]> By: Abha http://www.vagablogging.net/handling-the-transition-numb-and-lost.html/comment-page-1#comment-5971 Abha Wed, 03 Dec 2008 08:43:43 +0000 http://www.vagablogging.net/?p=2790#comment-5971 Mohammad, Anish, JA, and Amanda: Thanks for your thoughts, I really appreciate them. It's easier to write feelings here than to talk about them to people who have no idea what I was up to the last 3 years. 2-years to settle in!? I really hope not. I think I should be OK in a month or two, when all this sinks in.I'm at work full time, so that helps. Mohammad, Anish, JA, and Amanda: Thanks for your thoughts, I really appreciate them. It’s easier to write feelings here than to talk about them to people who have no idea what I was up to the last 3 years.

2-years to settle in!? I really hope not. I think I should be OK in a month or two, when all this sinks in.I’m at work full time, so that helps.

]]> By: Amanda http://www.vagablogging.net/handling-the-transition-numb-and-lost.html/comment-page-1#comment-5970 Amanda Wed, 03 Dec 2008 08:26:08 +0000 http://www.vagablogging.net/?p=2790#comment-5970 Abha, you poor gal, sounds like a nasty case of <a href="http://www.vagabondish.com/how-to-survive-reverse-culture-shock/" rel="nofollow">reverse culture shock</a> and I never really found a cure. My best advice is to try to switch off your brain a bit - don't think about it all too much for a while - try to distract yourself with stuff you know you enjoy whether it's books, DVDs, shopping (budget-dependent of course) or sport or whatever. What I mean is, let a bit of time pass and you'll (probably) start to feel better. Once you're more settled you can make a sensible decision about whether you want to move on again or not. And something that probably won't help (sorry): a bunch of friends and I who've all lived abroad for extended periods calculated an average of 2 years to settle back in to our hometown. Of course, it could be faster for you and I hope it is! Abha, you poor gal, sounds like a nasty case of reverse culture shock and I never really found a cure. My best advice is to try to switch off your brain a bit – don’t think about it all too much for a while – try to distract yourself with stuff you know you enjoy whether it’s books, DVDs, shopping (budget-dependent of course) or sport or whatever. What I mean is, let a bit of time pass and you’ll (probably) start to feel better. Once you’re more settled you can make a sensible decision about whether you want to move on again or not.

And something that probably won’t help (sorry): a bunch of friends and I who’ve all lived abroad for extended periods calculated an average of 2 years to settle back in to our hometown. Of course, it could be faster for you and I hope it is!

]]> By: J A http://www.vagablogging.net/handling-the-transition-numb-and-lost.html/comment-page-1#comment-5969 J A Wed, 03 Dec 2008 06:32:00 +0000 http://www.vagablogging.net/?p=2790#comment-5969 alfds! Please don't make outrageously ignorant posts. It wastes our time. Rolf, remember your interview on frommers.com podcast when you talked about the need to be extroverted while traveling! Ok I know that doesn't solve your problem, but I was just listening to it today... Anyway, I was deeply affected by this post. I'm rooting for you. alfds! Please don’t make outrageously ignorant posts. It wastes our time.

Rolf, remember your interview on frommers.com podcast when you talked about the need to be extroverted while traveling! Ok I know that doesn’t solve your problem, but I was just listening to it today… Anyway, I was deeply affected by this post. I’m rooting for you.

]]> By: aljfds http://www.vagablogging.net/handling-the-transition-numb-and-lost.html/comment-page-1#comment-5963 aljfds Wed, 03 Dec 2008 00:21:04 +0000 http://www.vagablogging.net/?p=2790#comment-5963 Wow are you a complainer. You can just waltz back into employment and housing after three years abroad and you're whingeing? You'd never make it in the U.S. Wow are you a complainer. You can just waltz back into employment and housing after three years abroad and you’re whingeing? You’d never make it in the U.S.

]]> By: anish http://www.vagablogging.net/handling-the-transition-numb-and-lost.html/comment-page-1#comment-5954 anish Tue, 02 Dec 2008 17:01:11 +0000 http://www.vagablogging.net/?p=2790#comment-5954 didi! it seems natural. it'll only get better with time, but make sure you let it. it's generally called umm, the process of adaptation :) didi!
it seems natural.
it’ll only get better with time, but make sure you let it.
it’s generally called umm, the process of adaptation :)

]]> By: Mohammad http://www.vagablogging.net/handling-the-transition-numb-and-lost.html/comment-page-1#comment-5945 Mohammad Tue, 02 Dec 2008 11:55:10 +0000 http://www.vagablogging.net/?p=2790#comment-5945 Welcome back to Dubai ... you wrote something interesting to me ... "I am feeling like I’m nowhere and am not recognising who I am. I feel like I’ve become introverted" ... I have the same feeling every now n then ... I am from kuwait and I haven't been living there for a while ... I want to travel and truely see the world but I know that this will come at the price of everything u mentioned above ... Welcome back to Dubai … you wrote something interesting to me … “I am feeling like I’m nowhere and am not recognising who I am. I feel like I’ve become introverted” … I have the same feeling every now n then … I am from kuwait and I haven’t been living there for a while … I want to travel and truely see the world but I know that this will come at the price of everything u mentioned above …

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