Do certain people make destinations off limits?
Many travelers have a lengthy list of places they want to go. Alternatively, the list of places they’d prefer to stay away from can seem small in comparison. There are a variety of reasons to want to skip a place: war, security issues, disease outbreaks, a recent disaster, or even lack of interest in the destination.
What about when you want to avoid seeing a person so much that you choose to scratch the city they live in off your travel list?
I know a man who refuses to return to a small town in Central America because a former love interest lives there. He enjoyed visiting the place during the time they dated. But now that they’re “just friends,” he doesn’t want to risk running into her while walking down the street.
Sure, he’ll probably get over it and be able to determine whether he liked the town for its own merits or if it seemed wonderful because his mind was in a different place at the time. And then, he’ll chose whether or not to return.
How about you? Have you ever avoided a place entirely because an ex-somebody (girlfriend/boyfriend, spouse, friend, boss) lived there? If so, do you now regret it? Please share your thoughts in the comments section.
August 9th, 2011 at 4:35 am
Yes I do
August 9th, 2011 at 12:05 pm
It was a shipboard romance. There was a Greek island in the middle, but we met and parted on shipboard and even at the time I was aware that it was a story. It had a beginning, a middle and an end, and the end was sweet and perfect as we kissed and I climbed over the side onto a rope ladder to go down to a rowboat tossing in the darkness below. It was a completed arc, a unity, perfect as things in life so seldom are. I later avoided an island that she had mentioned she might visit because it would have been made bad art to see her again. The story was perfect as it was and a good writer should know when to stop.
August 9th, 2011 at 12:11 pm
Wow. Great question. I had a very serious former love in New Zealand when I lived there. Now I have strange feelings about if/ when I’d ever go back. It’s sad, in a way, but beautiful too. Otherwise, not a single place on the globe can keep me away! 🙂
August 13th, 2011 at 11:01 am
I always go where I wanna go, I don’t care at all about the others’ opinion or if my ex bf lives there or something.