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January 21, 2008

Dealing with the guilt of not having a career path when you vagabond

There is probably no better education than traveling. It opens your mind, makes you stronger, stirs your curiosity, builds confidence and gives you knowledge about the world you live in. Unfortunately, the one thing it doesn’t give you easily is a job you like, that will sustain you unquestionably. Consider yourself lucky if you can live from travel-writing, or have some sort of business or assets that give consistent returns so you can spend the rest of your life trotting the world.

I’ve been in Spain for the last year and a half teaching English. It’s easy, it’s not boring, it’s a way of living, a means to an end. But do I want to do that for the rest of my life? Does it matter what I do as long as I’m living my dream of traveling? Is it too late to start other work when you are done seeing the world and want to settle? Will my previous work experience be worth anything if I choose to take it out of the closet 4-years later?

Although I have lived the culture, seen a good part of Spain and Europe whilst I earned my wages teaching, I feel like I haven’t traveled enough; I think the worry of where next month’s rent is going to come from got the better of me.

If you are anything like me, and come from a world of cut-throat corporate culture, when you decide to leave everything and see the world or live another culture, as much as you will attempt to do it in the best way possible, don’t be surprised if you feel guilty that you are not working and your career path seems to have come to a dead end.

My guilt has kept me put when I should have traveled more. You may not care about being rich — you are traveling the world after all — but seeing people your age doing great at their jobs and having a certain standard of living that they probably will never lose, can, for no good reason, punch you in the face; especially when they tell you about the 2-month paid holiday they are taking to Vietnam.

I’m now telling myself the same thing I had to when I first headed out:

These thoughts lead to another:
If you are clear that you are vagabonding for, say, a year, then I suppose that’s what you have planned, and your “planning” pre-trip will help you (financially and mentally) live your time out traveling to the fullest. But, if you are like me, who just wanted to live another culture, learn another language and see the world — and made no concrete plans, or changed them all along the way, two-years into living this lifestyle can really make you wonder what next? That’s where I’m at.

Do I go back to a 9-5 job? Do I go back to school? Do I move to another country? Do I plan a few months of travel before I make the decision? Why didn’t I travel as much as I had thought I would?

Do all these questions really matter? I think it’s the usual confusion you need to come to terms with when you choose to live an unconventional life.

Things have their way of falling into place. That’s what I’m going with anyway :).

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Category: Notes from the collective travel mind
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8 Responses to “Dealing with the guilt of not having a career path when you vagabond”

  1. Tim Patterson Says:

    Thanks for that Abha, way to lay it right out there. Remember, life is a journey, not a destination…

  2. Katie Says:

    Abha, you hit the nail on the head for me. I was just thinking these same thoughts when I found your post. Wonderfully put and know there are many others that are feeling the same way. It is all about where you are now, not where you were or where you will be. Think of the present.

  3. Katie Says:

    Abha, you hit the nail on the head for me. I was just thinking these same thoughts when I found your post. Wonderfully put and know there are many others that are feeling the same way. It is all about where you are now, not where you were or where you will be. Think of the present.

  4. Wanna Travel Says:

    I was on the verge of going traveling for year, but wrestled with similar thoughs. I’m 40 and here is what I’d lose:

    a) an $87,000 a year salary, 100 percent 401k matching, free health care except for some piddly deductibles
    b) six weeks of vacation a year, plus 12 holidays, plus off the week between christmas and new year’s.

    I had my tickets purchased, but couldn’t do it and earlier today called to cancel.

    Walking away from those job benefits, with it being doubtful I’d find something similar when i got back, was too big of a step for me.

  5. j Says:

    Just goes to show that you can never fully leave home behind. Thanks for the thoughts.

  6. Sherry Says:

    Great post, Abha!

    Wanna Travel, what kind of job do you do? *wondered by copy editor who gets two weeks off and barely any holidays*

  7. Alexis Wolff Says:

    So true. It’s natural to covet another’s career path and security. Something that always helps me, though, is actually talking about this with a corporate friends who has one of those nice 6-figure salaries I find myself envying; chances are they’re much more jealous of your life than you are of theirs.

  8. Scott Says:

    Wanna Travel, put those six weeks to good use. That’s alot more vacation time than alot of people get. I say pick a spot on the map and stay there for six weeks.

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