March 17, 2008

What happens when you can't get over your wanderlust?

A reader named Ty recently sent me an email with a sentiment that is pretty common among people who love long-term travel. He writes:

I am in the middle of trying to accept that my itchy feet will never be cured, and that "vagabonding" as you coin it, runs ripe in my blood. At the age of 28 I have recently returned from 4 years abroad, and have been suppressing my urges to be elsewhere, trying to convince myself that responsibility entails a career, a car, and a mortgage…

I thought that after all of my travels and experiences settling into this "9-5" existence would be easier, and that I could take comfort in knowing that I had seen and done some incredible things. However, it has had the reverse effect; I have been taking the drug too long to quit! So here I am wondering if by wanting to go off to travel again I am taking the easy way out by avoiding the pressures of "growing up". Or am I just being honest with myself by wanting to do what I know makes me truly happy?

I told Ty that I know how he feels, because I've been in that situation. Granted, transitioning back into the 9-5 life can be tough -- and one should give it an honest try upon returning home -- but sometimes you have to go with your gut. There's no reason why you need to suddenly settle down at age 28; I didn't start vagabonding in earnest until I was 28, and now eight years later I feel like I have as many life options as ever.

So to anyone who feels that their calling lies in an itinerant life (or at least a few more years of travel than they'd initially planned), I can only say to just live smart, approach your travels mindfully, and don't let anyone pressure you into "acting your age" until you're ready to do so!

Posted by Rolf Potts |
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Comments (1)

After living six years abroad I tried to move back to the Midwest - and not even a potentially cosmopolitan city in the region, but the blue collar town where I was born.

I was about 30 years old and although a few people were curious about my experiences, I felt that living in this tiny little country and speaking the language had become such an integral and rewarding part of my life. I felt obsessed and longed to go back.

So even while I was existing in the Midwest I applied to a journalism fellowship and ended up spending three months in Germany. I went back to my job in the States and faked it a little bit, then moved on to grad school.

During that time, I really felt like I was one of the international students because I had more in common with them.

Eventually, I headed back to this crazy little dysfunctional country. It's not as exciting as it was when I got here in 1990, but it's a heck of a lot more interesting than being home.

Living abroad adds another dimension to my life. It's always a source of stimulation and I would never trade it . Alas, it's not likely I'll ever "grow up."

Uncle Drew
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